The problem
Generally, it's relatively easy to help someone who expresses a problem to us, one that doesn't directly affect us: this would be the case with an ordinary brother, a follower of the Lord; …
But what to do when it comes to helping, to assisting someone who is suffering from a problem in which we are directly involved, a problem that affects us directly and profoundly? How can we help a self-centered and disorganized friend who relies on us to maintain their momentum? How can we help a husband or wife with a terrible character without prioritizing our own peace of mind? How can we maintain genuine compassion for that sister who has real character problems with her fiancé, when that fiancé is none other than ourselves?
Is it possible to detach oneself from a problem that hits us hard, in order to approach it with complete objectivity and seek the appropriate solution before God?
In our professional lives, the answer will be immediate and clear: NO! As a doctor, you cannot treat your own son if he arrives in the emergency room, NO! As a police officer or judge, you cannot be involved in a case concerning one of your relatives, whether they are on the prosecution or the defense: you would be effectively removed from the proceedings!
But what then should we do in the Christian life: recuse ourselves from a "case" concerning our fiancée, our child, or our elderly parent? This, a priori, would not seem to align with the divine approach.
The perfect solution
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